The Family Tree by Constantine Gochis

This short reminiscence of Dad's reallly connects with another I just entered onto the blog the other day, "The Melting Pot".  To me, both stories, and likely others I will post here, are evidence of the extremes and ambiguities of human nature. Back when my father's family first came to the United States, from Greece, and Italy, and my mother's family from Ireland, the new immigrants, many of them, so wanted to be part of the American Dream, that they virtually excised their original cultures in key ways. My Greek Grandfather actually changed his last name to something he viewed as more "American", such that my father had issue when he became a soldier in WWII, he had to take legal steps to change it back to Gochis.  How many first generation children never learned to speak Greek, or Italian, or Gaelic, because they wanted to be fully American? Some kept their cultures rather resticted to their homes. Outside they felt the need to be prove their American adaptation. This was an uneasy attitude, and so many of the same immigrants' behaviors told the children at the same time they ought not be too American. The same grandfather who took what he perceived to be an AMERICAN name, also despised it when his children dated outside of the Greek nationality, and again, in full contradiction, married an Italian American. There was a love, and a resentment, for the country to which they had, in many cases escaped. The love overtook the resentment, at least in the public square, then. They bought into the requirements of citizenship. They ascribed, perhaps with some of that resentment intact, but truly to the ideas of the American Experiment. That was then. Now, the resentment has superseded the desire to be an American.  The invitation to illegal immigration which has overrun our shores, people who, in many cases, might be perfectly wonderful, but who have no interest in becoming American, or, because of policies dooming the nation, is toppling American history. This new immigrant, has no idea of the unique nature of the American principles of the rights of man and from Whom they derive, because our own leaders are rewriting history to depict America, which no one ever said was perfect, but strove to perfection, as the most evil of any society that came before, or exist now. It's disheartening. My father died 18 years ago so the extreme of hatred for the country, though he predicted it to me, and friends, he did not live to see. He saw it coming all the way back in the 1960s. 

No nation in the world succeeded as long as America did bringing in peoples from contrasting places of different values and made them "one out of many".  The many had to maintain a central philosophy. But therein is the rub. We haven't. "It's a Republic, if you can keep it," said a Founding Father, who likely is now called an abundance of vile names. One can only pray that the fall of America will somehow be intercepted by the intercession of a Higher Power. 

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My source from New York told me I was to be visited by three "Graces". This oracular fount is a senior family member who has been present since early in the last century, when three brothers, one of them my father, left their ancestral digs in the Kalamata region of Greece and ventured into the promise of golden American streets, thence, to prosper and multiply.

They multiplied. Some flourished. Some did not.

Helen called. She is a first cousin, the daugter of Uncle Steve, my father's brother. There was to be a family wedding, she announced, and she and her sisters, Irene and Demetra, would be in Los Angeles for the occasion. Would I be at home?

I have not seen this cousin for perhaps forty-odd years, though I do recall that then she was indeed worthy of her name-sake, the one who centuries ago sparked the Trojan War, tall, blonde, blue-eyed, and imperious. I mention this, specifically, because the girls of our geneology border in morphology on either side of comely.

I had no visual memory of the sisters, Irene and Demetra, and certainly not the bride to be, Melissa, the inspiration of their hegira. Demetra, as you may know, is the mythical goddess whoses daughter Persephone was kidnapped by the God of the underworld, Hades. 

I make no invidious comparisons, but this I can say, Melissa upon my meeting her, was indeed comely and charming.

Helen is still tall, now generously ample, assertive and perhaps still imperious. Her golden, youthful luminosity has naturally faded as it does, but still lives in the many pictures the girls brought from their halcyon days. Indeed, I tell Helen. She was beautiful. Helen preens.

We reminisce over white wine.  We exchange stories of our heritage's mythologies. We disagree on some key facts regarding family heroics. Irene, of placid disposition, and thus aptly named, recounts with a misture of pride and amusement, "Papa used to love to tell how he returned to Greece, with his rifle, to assure the marriage of his sister, another Demetra.  It seems that the promised suitor was somewhat reluctant to honor his promise of marriage."

My recollection is that it was my own father who performed the act of family honor.

"It was in 1912 or 1913, " I say, "just before the war with Bulgaria, or Turkey, I can't be sure.  He cemented the marriage, but got drafted into the Greek military, a corollary benefit of the pilgrimage.

We talked of lifetimes. Forty years is a long, long time, of marriages and children, or the dissolutions of relationships and the finality of death.

All three sisters are widows. I have heard that Helen had four husbands. She recalls only three. In our initial phone conversation I remarked to her that I had met her first husband.

"Which one?" came the query.

"The arranged one," I reminded. "The one your Papa wanted."

"Oh, that one," she replied. "I forgot about him."

It is a curious fact. My fathers and his brothers were almost tyrannical in their chauvinism. They were xenophobic, distrustful of this complacent new world to which they had come, with its short skirts and bobbed hair. And yet, of the ten females and six males of their aggregate progeny, only two married Greeks.

I knew that Melissa, of this fully modern age, would not marry in the Holy Trinity Cathedral on Normandy Avenue. There would be no exchange of laurel wreaths and the ceremonial processions ad chants.

"When is the wedding, Melissa," I asked.

"Tomorrow," she replied.

Now, you may well ask, what is the significance of this family trivia?

The short answer is, the "melting pot", who dissolves therein and what is the alloy that is produced?

Once Upon a New Year's Eve by Constantine Gochis (and a Very Long Prologue by the Djinn)

This story causes me to tear up, frankly. Again, my father somewhat manipulates time in its telling and clearly the names have been changed, the name. My mother died in November 1974 at age 48. They had met when she was 18.  My father was about as uninterested in having another relationship, and definitely uninterested in the possibility of another marriage after she died. They had been married for 28 years, and as they say now, it was "complicated". There was a deep sadness and unsatisfied longing in my mother. She had, I think, expected my father, to give her a life that whisked her from the Bronx to a Manhattan apartment complete with doorman and concierge. Her younger sister, who has lived over double the time alloted to my mother, now age 99, managed the apartment with those amenities, then 450.00, an outrageous sum at the time. She and her husband, a bus driver, had two salaries, as my aunt was a working woman in a time when they were negligible. But my uncle also was, in my child's view, and in my view from my dotage, a bit of an operator. There are stories, albeit sketchy ones. My parents and I had moved earlier, to a nice two bedroom apartment in the Fort Independence area of the Bronx. But, it was still the Bronx, and there was neither doorman nor concierge. 

For the two years of my completion of college, and my first semester in law school beginning in February 1977, it was just my father and I. Dad was still working and in his spare time, he read, and played a mean game of paddle ball with the locals in the nearby park next to the Jerome Reservoir. He enjoyed being the cook and host at my parties at our apartment. And he flirted with my female friends, who enjoyed his charm that was reminiscent of a Ronald Colman or Adolph Menjou. Dad's flirting was artistic but it wasn't serious. It did, however, give me the agita of embarrassment. 

But somewhere in late 1976 or early 1977 (according to this story is was 1976), a work friend wanted my father to meet a woman, some 16 or more years younger than he, who was full blooded first generation Greek, but a woman in the work world, and at that time separated from her musician husband. There was a coincidence that they had both attended the same Greek School as children, albeit many years apart. My father resisted but ultimately surrendered to the blind date. And when they met, there was magic. There was dancing. I mean, really, there was dancing, lots of dancing, in the few remaining places, like Roseland, in Manhattan.

It was a little paradoxical that I, in the throes of law school study, and never marginally good at dating, was the one always waiting up for him. I guess he made the paternal decision not to stay in her Manhattan apartment, paternal not only for me (though I was not naive) but in consideration for her son, who was about 16, some years young than me at 23. Truth be told, once I met her, I was crazy about her, and if I could have arranged their marriage, I would have gladly been the wedding planner.  Many of my friends met her.  One time, they came back from some event, my father in a tux and she in a beautiful formal dress and they easily joined my college crowd. But there were obstacles. The difference in age bothered my father a lot. He had had one heart attack in 1971, a serious one at 53. And he had other health issues that sometimes required surgeries. He was adamant that this young woman should never be put in the position of having to be his caregiver. Or that he would die suddenly, and first, which he had expected to do vis a vis my mother. One day, about two years into their relationship, it ended. Dad made it sound as if it had been entirely his decision, which I would find out later, was not the case. It was, well, "complicated". She was a devout Greek Orthodox girl for whom divorce was problematic. And I have heard that many years later, though they were not together, she took care of the separated husband, in his last illness. Ironic. 

Dad never stopped talking about her. And I reconnected with her. I don't recall exactly when, at least after I moved to California in 1981.  I tried to get her to come to his 80th birthday, as a surprise. It was clear that whatever the outcome of the romance, the connection had been a bit magical for them--a dual Cinderella story without the happy ending for my father. I don't know what she felt. She is still alive, 18 years after Dad passed away, and we talk from time to time. She simply has said, "It wasn't meant to be". But there was a little residual magic. I asked her again to come for my father's 90th birthday, to Los Angeles, again to be a surprise. Dad was very sick by then, the early spring of 2008. She came for a weekend. Such a lovely action required a material and emotional thanks. I paid for the hotel (over her objection) and my friend Len gave her miles to travel from New York. It was a packed few days several of us shared with them. Completely platonic, but a bit romantic, from my point of view. I thought my father loved it. Dad died two weeks later. 

I don't know when he wrote this story, before or after that visit, nearly 30 years after they had last seen each other. I think it was before. But  finally reading this story,  makes me extra glad that that I arranged that weekend in March 2008. 

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Once Upon a New Year's Eve

Two groups of people lined the bus entrance.  Someone was descending, but it was taking more time than usual.  No one wanted to intercede. I decided to, myself.

A little bent old lady was making her exit. She was not fully ambulatory. Her three plastic bags were suspended on the bus coin box. There was, also, her walker, which she was manipulating precariously, and a cane. 

The driver lolled with indolent indifference to the unfolding scene, his paunch imbedded, nay, wedged, three inches into the steering wheel.

I reached into the bus and retrieved the plastic bags, the walker and the cane and helped the bent figure traverse the chasm between the vehicle and the curb.

Her eyelids seemed almost shut, but she looked up and thanked me. She held both of my hands and whispered a chant, sibilant and unintelligible.  Then she said, clearly: "I am poor and cannot reward you, but you will have a gift. Twelve dreams you will have, one a month. You may want to alter something in the dream, or add or even eliminate an action, but only the dream will change. You will remember it upon awakening, but nothing will be altered in reality. On December 31, you will have your first dream.

I tried not to laugh. The little crone was surely putting me on. The story of the goddess Athena who, disguised as a beggar woman, sought help and received it, came to mind.  The kindly were rewarded for their assistance with a pitcher of wiine that remained perpetually full.

It was already December 31. A bottle of something with the quality provided by Athena would certainly palliate the fact that my New Year's Eve would be spent alone. I laughed again. But I felt goose bumps on my skin.

I marveled as my augur arranged her three shopping bags on the cane and then affixed them in some miraculous manner to the walker.  She then crossed the street slowly, stopping only to hurl an invective at the bus driver, who had moved forward slightly into her path, as the traffic light turned a permissive green.

There was no magic bottle, but I did mix a pitcher of Martinis. After the third one, I dozed, but was rudely awakened by the phone. She was coming with me. My world had changed.

We were late. I pushed the accelerator to its limit. The Governor's Island Ferry was about to leave imminently, and the next one would not be available until after midnight. She clung to my arm. I had only one thought. I was going to ask her this time, come hell or high water, tonight, December 31, 1977.

I could see the attendant moving across the bow to attach the interdicting chain. I barely missed hitting him as I crossed onto the boat and stopped.  My companion was thrown into my arms and I held her hungrily. I could hear an insistent tapping on my window to which I did not wish to respond, so much was my joy. When I did, I was properly penitent.

"You could be barred from the Officer's Club, permanently," he said. "You deliberately ignored my stop signal." Still, he looked at us, and then smiled.

"Just this once, it's New Year's Eve", he said.

This was our second New Year's Eve together but I knew it would be different.  For the past several months I had thought of nothing else.  I would ask her, beg her to forgive me for last year's failure, when the words would not come.

I held her tightly. We had not moved from our positions in the care in which we had stopped and she was hurled into my arms. I felt impatient. I would not wait for us to debark. I was practically incoherent.

"Marry me, Lara, marry me, now, tonight, before the clock strikes twelve." 

She kissed me and I knew she would. We walked to the prow and watched the ferry pierce the waves as it approached the wooden barriers of the pier.  I thought the helmsman was moving too fast. The ship plowed with force into the landing and we were thrown apart. 

I awoke. I was alone by a phone that never rang. There were three olives in the ashtray.

I had had my first dream. 

Once Upon a Time by Constantine Gochis

The Djinn's preface:  My father had a complex relationship with his parents, oft expressed in the pronouncement, "My parents were peasants". This may seem harsh, but what little I can glean from the sparse stories of his childood as the second of 7 surviving children, his father was a bit of a brute. At age ninety something, he dead for many decades, my Aunt Georgia expressed a lingering fear as if somehow he could still reach her with his disapproval. He died before I was born. My mother and father married secretly in about 1946. My mother failed the test of ethnicity. She was not Greek. In fact, she was full blooded, first generation, Irish.  This was anathema to my grandfather, although his own wife was first generation Italian. While the marriage remained a secret, my grandfather had an entire dinner in which he sought to introduce a nice Greek girl to Dad who painstakingly served them. When the marriage became a matter of family publicity, and Dad introduced her to the paterfamlias, she was given a mitigation because she wore an outfit that covered her charms from head to toe. Thus, at least, she was a "good girl". But my father had even less affection for his mother, though he always behaved in an honorable fashion toward her. She died in old age. One of his stories related to her was how she chased his younger sibling, Tony, around with a kitchen knife, when he committed some child's mischief. She was pregnant at the time. 

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Mr. Randolph was one of my father's favorite customers.  It was not that he was a big spender. In fact, he was one of Papa's elite clientele whose nature was never to carry cash, or anything heavy. "Put it on my account and have the boy bring it up," was the usual interaction.  In my preteen years, I was the "boy".

Mr. Randolph was a person who exuded elegance, although somewhat worn.  He was carefully attired. He carried a can and wore a felt hat, tan in color. This was an accessory he wore constantly, regardless of the sartorial conflict.  To my younth eyes he himself seemed somewhat worn, and probably not one of the affluent denizens of the neighborhood.

He was friendly, and garrulous, and whether or not he bought something, he frequently became engaged in philosophical discuss wion my father.  Papa addressed him as Professor Randolph, although he was, in fact, of more pedestrian accomplishments. My father applied his own value to degrees of accomplishment. "Professor" was not a title of reverence to him.  It was a challenge, an invitation to a joust. He felt sure that only the vagaries of early deprivation separated him from the heights of learning.

I suspect that it was Mr. Randolph who introduced my father to an aphorism he often employed, one that varied slightly in syntax, "Stay on your feet and limitations" or "Lay on your feet and limitations." In either version, it became his paradigm of universal application. 

When he was confronted by the logic of an adversary, he resorted to a store of illustrative fables.  His most pointed rebuttal lay in the story of a man who was sitting on the breanch of a tree and sawing it from the inside. A "Professor" who was passing cautions him that if he continues in this fashion, he will surely fall. The man, who always responds with pique, responds, "Professor, if you are so smart, tell me when I am going to die." I do not mean to disparage my father, but I temporize.

It seems that in one of the many dissertations with Randolph, the subject of a magic substance, called "Ergosterol" was revealed to him. Ergosterol is an enzyme that humans possess beneath the skin that produces Vitamin D, but only when exposed to the sun. This particular revelation had evil consequences of some severity for me.

On the next day after the epiphany, he directed Mr. Hagiopolis, his employee, to take me to Long Beach for a sunbath.  I was, consquently, severely burned and blistered. My mother, not as yet instructed in the salutary benefits of Ergosterol, opined that the event was caused by the "matia", the evil eye cast upon me by her sisters in law.

The patriarch, my father, inspected the areas of the holocaust on my body and was pleased with the results. He was of the philosophy that medicine that tastes bad is good; the discomfort of minor burns had to be equally beneficial. 

He directed Mr. Hagiopolis to bring me back to Long Beach the next day.

The Melting Pot by Constantine Gochis

As I have noted before, I never entirely know how much of the "old" stories of Dad's family are fully true. I know they have some truth, for example, because I know that before the Depression, the family had a house in the Bronx. I have seen the picture of most, though not all, of the children in the backyard, which in the photo, at least, looks more lush than my father describes in this story when it was purchased. My uncle Steve is not in the picture because he was not yet born, and my Aunt Georgia, the eldest, is not in the picture because she hid from her husband that she was older than he, and the rest of her siblings. That she hid this is confirmed by the photos, including this one in the back yard, in which she is cut out, or rather, she cut herself out. Perhaps somewhere there is a negative, though I doubt it, this many years on. We are talking the 1920s. My father is about five in the picture, wearing a sailor suit. They were more prosperous then, though not rich. The Depression would take that away and I believe it was before 1931, the date in which my father says this father in law came to live with them. I do not think that Nikkos is a real character, if only because, my father's mother was not Greek. She was Italian, though first generation, born on Mulberry Street somewhere around 1890 ish. But I suspect there is some hard kernal of truth in this tale. I actually thought I had posted it long ago, but turns out I had not, or I never noted it in my list of now over 100 stories I have published on this blog written by my father. I regret that he never became a known writer. He had a great talent. He always wanted to do something creative as a vocation. It didn't work out that way. Still he was a man of deep thoughts and educated tastes as all these stories demonstrate. And of course, a master of cynicism.

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THE MELTING POT

The old man came to live with us in 1931, I am sure. It was the year Papa bought an eleven room house in the Bronx to shelter his growing family.  I was the eldest at six.  There were already four children.  Papa left no doubt about his itention to sire many more.  There was little more than a year between my brothers and sisters in age. 

Nikkos, the old man, did not get along with his son-in-law, who was married to my mother, his daughter. He regarded Papa as a turncoat Greek, who had sold is glorious Hellenic birthright for a mess of American pottage. Papa attended "corrupt Americani" night schools.  He became a citizen.  He allowed his wife to bob her hair.  He was not a true Greek.

Nor had he attended the wedding of his daughter, though it was celebrated in the great cathedral on Forty-Seven Stree, the "Holy Trinity" or "Hagia Triada".  

A mitigating circumstance was the ten dollars a week that he contributed to the hearth. The Great Depression was upon us.

He was, for the times, affluent.  His income came from the Government insurance policy which was compensating him for the loss of his son, Nikkos, Jr. who was killed in France on November 4, 1918, seven days before the armistice.

He was wont to curse, beneath his breath, at his son's picture, before which a candle burned perpetually, in a flickering red cup, on our piano.

Nikkos begged his son not to enlist to fight for this "barbarian" country.  Nikkos, Jr. embodied all his aspirations, his immortality, his fortress against assimilation into this mongrel society he had grown to hate. He had sold his flesh to Mammon.

He had three more children, all girls, before his peasant wife sickened, as silent and obliging as she lived, died quietly.

There ensued the inevitable.  He was a desultory parent. He never noticed his authority has weakened.  The eldest girl led the insurrection. She married an Italian contractor and fled to Chicago. My mother's selection did not please him even though my father was Greek.  There was, of course, the violence.  He beat his first daughter severely, but she had him arrested and roundly chastised into restraint by the robed men with pince-nez glasses and ascetic nostrils.  The hated Americani.

When the only other daughter married a diamond dealer from Salonika, of a prominent Jewish family, his soul hardened and with the death of his son in France, he lapsed into monastic resignation.

I knew nothing of this history until much later.  From the outset, there was friendship between us.  I was not yet seasoned to the antagonisms of adult behavior.  I liked the old man. On the Fourth of July, he would stuff a five-dollar bill into my pocket and say, "Go maka somma noise!" I supposed he made allowances for this American day of liberation since it was, conincidentally, his birthday.

One of my few childhood memories is the shock of separation somehow engendered by our sudden move into our new house.  I remember looking out of a window into strange, undeveloped, weed-encumbered lots. I turned to find Grandpa standing behind me, curious, peering to determine the source of my interest.

I did not tell him. I had no words for the feeling.  There was nothing out there, but loneliness.  Still, I felt a warmth in his unexpected presence, a feeling of comfort, companionship. He was offering friendship and I needed a friend.

We were neighbors. My room was separated from his by a flimsy wall that sllowed the sounds of his evening peregrinations to filter through.  I could hear the scraping sounds of an obstructed urination, followed by the anathemas he hurled the the Icons on his wall. He cursed each in turn, by name, excoriating them, blaming them for leading him to this desert of brick and stone, where his dreams took no seed.

Every once in a while, he would chant one of those Ottoman "Amanes" or plaints of his village, wailing songs of despair and rejection.

I believe I was his only companion.  My fatgher ignored him.  My siblings were in various states of maturation. There was a coldness between him and my mother, and silence from his other daughters from whom he never heard.

We had no age difference between us. We played together as equals. He was trim and agile, gray eyed, with carefully cropped hair.  He had an array of pipes which he alternated daily.  I bought his "Prince Albert" tobacco when he ran out. I was fascinated. I knew he liked me, and to a child this is the measure of all need.

I helped tend the gardens he created out of the barren half-acre of our property.  I learned to plow, sow the seed, water the fragile shoots, hammer support into the ground for the fast growing tomato plants.  He would watch, approvingly, stopping occasionally to throw a rock at an offending cat, adding a sharp curse to give impetus to the projectile.

Sometimes, in midsummer, when the sounds of crickets protested the hot weather and the fireflies lit the darkness under his grape arbor, he would try to convey his longing for his abandoned country. I saw what he was seeing. His sky, deep and blue, the vines heavy with grape clusters, the gnarled olive trees silhouetted against a reddening, darkening sky at sunset.  I travelled with him, in his dream to the "Kafeneon" of his forsaken village, the coffeehouse where his friends gathered to sip the thick sweet coffee in the little cups.  I could hear the songs of the heroes of 1821 who descended from Mount Ossa with their long sabres to slay the hated Ottoman.

Sometimes, he would break into a mournful dirge.  "Manna mou, manna mou, pou eeseh?" "Mother, mother, where are you?

Nikkos died when I was twelve.  It was as if he decided to leave. He gave me his watch with the gold case that opened to disclose a face of Roman numerals.  He did not protest when I fingered his collection of pipes. He pressed a five dollar bill into my palm and said, "No tella your mother."

I got his room with the Byzantine Ikons on the wall and his four poster bed, the one he died in. Usually fearful of the metaphysical, I was not afraid. If his spirit were given to wandering, it would not, I knew, harm me.  I was not so sure about his children and my father.

Papa said what he told me about the old country was "skata", a Greek word for "shit".  I don't know why he wanted to tell me his truths--perhaps some inner guilt of his own, some failure, some genetic adhesion to a sacred code of behavior that he might have violated. There was too much vehemence in what he said. 

"There was no lush garden," he said.  "The grapes were withered on the vine when he left. The olives had to be pressed, and pressed again, before his family could have any olive oil."

I don't know.  I did not care then and I don't care now. I hope he is sitting in a familiar "Kafeneon" sipping his little cup, under lush verdant vines, where resin win flows in gentle streams and the quarter tone Moorish songs of heroes echo deep within the soul. His battle was more fearful than the Ottoman hordes. A pitiless crucible, a melton pot that engulfs, sears and destroys the old so that the new may live.

"Xaire, Farewell, Rest."

They Are All Good and Honorable Men by Constantine Gochis

I haven't quickly posted this story, and I am not sure if it is a real reminiscence, of my father's. It does however reflect his deep cynicism about humanity, and is among the explanations for his resistance to faith---that God would bother to create such people, that this could not possibly be the action of a good God to allow the vagaries of human banality or worse, cruelty. It was pointless to attempt to remind him that the villain was not God, but the wilfulness of the creation. Order was thrown into disorder, not by God, but by a pride born of Pelagianism, the idea that man does not need God, that there can be no original sin and man can perfect himself. It happened in Eden; it continues now, the only difference is that after Redemption, the second chance at choice is a purely individual one. It will save or condemn each of us based on the choice, rather than lead to a collective salvation or condemnation as the choice of Adam and Eve very nearly caused. 

Man causes the mess. He blames God. He excises God. And remains clueless about the mess of his own making. 

Sin is a choice. The people in this story are fictional (or real) examples of it of varying degrees. Wasn't Harvey Weinstein considered a good and honorable man even though all his "friends" also good and honorable men (and women) knew otherwise? And whose fault is that?

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They Are All Good and Honorable Men

Prologue

There is a scene in the movie, Zorba the Greek, in which the Cretan, Mavrandoni, cuts the throat of the town's beautiful widow.  The townspeople, assembled for the execution, approve. It was an act of honor. Mavrandoni wipes his knife and stands before the populace, proud, unashamed. He is, after all, "Kalos kai agathos," good and noble. He has avenged a mortal assault on his honor.

What was the offense?  The widow rejected the attentions of his son, an infatuated juvenile. The boy commits suicide. And worse, she had given her favors elsewhere. 

There are cerebral processs that have mystified me throughout my life.  I began to notice certain startling aberrations of the cognitive mind early in my youth.

The movie I had just watched reminded me of some people I have known, all I am sure, thought to possess the qualities of the good and honorable which they brought with them from the "Patrida" the fatherland, the old country, in the early years of the 20th Century in a small piece of New York.

There was never a day when some one of my father's townsmen did not make an appearance at his store.  

They came out of loneliness for an occasional glass of ouzo, a favorite Greek potable, or a loan, to tide one over, or some feta with retsina wine and the discussion of the latest crisis in the homeland.  Several came for no visible reason at all.

Since, as a pre-teenager, I was required to do service in the store--one was never too young to learn about work--I got to know each of the visitors intimately.

There was Mr. Stelyn. Not only was he a visitor on a social basis, he was a supplier to my father's stores of glazed fruits, in those cellophane wrapped, beribboned packages of gift or steamer "Bon Voyage" baskets purchased by the elite for the elite.

Mr. Stelyn was a Church goer, an entrepreneur of status.  Papa considered him a person of the highest "Kalos kai agathos", good and noble, an opinion he had, in retrospect, about all his peripetatic friends.

One day when I was alone in the front of the store making childish drawings, Mr. Stelyn approached me.

He looked down at my artistic endeavor and smiled, disclosing two gold capped canines, and said, "Nice, nice picture," and drew close to my left side. He continued in his thick accent.

"Make, make nice picture."

I was not too young to recognize his member, erect within his trousers, impacting a point near my waist.

The contact was quickly and abruptly aborted when my father came into the store. There was the usual exchange of salutations. Mr. Stelyn returned his salutation with a wide smile enhancing the two golden crowns, framed in a very white face.

"Kala eemeh, kala eemeh, Yoryee."  "I am well, George," which was my father's name.

In retrospect, it is well I did not report the incident to my father. He was predictably capable of killing Mr. Stelyn or more likely, slapping me for uttering such an accusation against his countryman.

Mr. Peter Booloukos was one of three brothers, each notable for inclusion in my pantheon of worthy men.

He spoke little English.  In one of our rare dialogues--the elder tutoring the younger--he lectured me on the linguistic dependence of English on Greek. I remember only one word of his dissertation. "Aeer, aeer!" I took this to mean "Air". His profundity had discovered the similarity thus between the English and Greek languages.

I was in great need of that substance "air", to mitigate the strong oor of ouzo in our confined atmosphere.

I was afraid of this man. There was something sinister about his appearance. He wore black exclusively. An also black slouch hat topped the rest of his macabre ensemble. My fears were well founded. Pete never entered or exited from the front door of his apartment. I knew of the circuitous route he took beause I was in his home on an errand for my father.

Pete controlled the space allocated to the peddlers of frankfurters, chestnuts and other street business from Fifty-Ninth Stree and Broadway to One Hundreth and Tenth Street. If a recalcitrant peddlar refused him cash tribute, his wagon would be overturned or worse.

Pete had been married. When he susptected that his wife was unfaithful, he chained her to her bed. She broke loose and jumped from the third story window. She did not die. He had her repatriated. 

I do not remember the name of the middle Booloukos. My brother, Tony, who had a a distinct talent to characterize someone with a word, called him the "Hook". I suppose this was inspired by the fact that this Booloukos was a man of huge build, but with one withered arm and hand that was permanently affixed at his waist level.  

The third Booloukos was Aristotle.  He had a beautiful daughter in love with someone they called "O Americanos", the "American". 

The brothers discouraged this relationship. I overheard their rendition of their application of interdiction in the time worn tradition of their village of origin.

The other men nodded in approval of the Homeric account.

Two of the brothers held the young man while the "Hook" applied convincing physical chastisement. He disappeared.

The daughter, named Chrysoula," a name suggesting a quality of gold, disappeared in a way. She walked into space from the roof of her house.

There was one man I knew nothing of except what might be called externals.  He was a perpetual visitor to my father's store, coming in those brief hours of respite from his job as a dishwasher. He had taken the job on the day he left steerage of a magnificent ocean liner, one of the Cunard leviathans. He had never left that job. He was a youngish man, with a full head of black hair and a perpetual half-smile in the fashion of the comedian Stan Laurel.

His perpetual expression and unique taciturnity intrigued me.  He spoke to me only once in perhaps ten years of his comings and goings. His name was Christos, aptly named if one considers kindness and patience. Alas, he was also a man of limited cerebral capability. He was, one day, the only extraneous visitor of the motley crew that usually made its appearance. He had his usual half-smile but it had the quality of distress about it. I asked what ailed him in Greek, not sure that in pronouncing his name, I was correct in using the "dative" declension rather than the "vocative". I was learning Greei.

"Echo ponos," he said, pointing to his stomach. Pain.

I remembered a nostrum I had recently learned in the science portion of the "Book of Knowledge". It called for two glasses, one filled with lemon juice and the other a solution of bicarbonate of soda and water.  I prepared the potion, while Christos observed. Cynicism seemed to alter his expression, slightly. His eyes opened when I poured one glass into the other and produced a marvelous foam.

I gave it to him to drink, which he did, like an obedient child.

There was an enormous burp, and a look of surprised, unexpected pleasure.

"Make me 'nother one, boy," was the second complete sentence I heard from him, in the same day.

Sunday May Be a Good Time for Penitence by Constantine Gochis

 This rumination by my father requires a backstory. He attached the article, by one Fred Narvey, sometime in the 1990s in the magazine/paper Jewish Currents. The publication appears still to be in existence.

Basically two men meet, one, religious, is on the way to the synagogue on the Sabbath, and the other, who denominates himself a "secular" Jew advises he is on the way to a peace march. The conversation focuses on the secular Jew's and religious Jew's respect for each other's position on how to be Jewish, their definitions of God (Is God only a philosophy or something more) and spirituality, what books can or should be read by a Jew or non-Jew (like Sholem Aleichem), and what groups, literary and otherwise, a secular Jew or non-Jew or both, can or should join. 

They do not resolve their academic (and as we know a very real) dispute. And they go there separate ways with the farewell of "Shalom".

This was also written at a time (and it was always thus) that my father was struggling with belief, or lack thereof. While I remain pleased that he ultimately decided to join the Catholic Church, I do not think that struggle abated. But as a good man worried about where a sole daughter would bury her father, I concluded from one of his statements, "I want to make it easier for you", that there had been no Damascus moment and only a practical consideration.  But few have Damascus moments.  He did it. And he came to Mass every Sunday without fail from 2003 until 2008 when he died at age 90. He acted on his conversion in a very real way. He did not have to.

So here is his reverie on the article which reflects, in my view, his struggle.

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It is the Paschal Season.  Normally the imminence of Passover and Easter has no special impact on me.  In this matter, I am in philosophic sympathy with the musings of one Fred Narvey, in his article, Two Jews on One Shabbos.  I am not as definitive as he is on the non-efficacy of prayer.  Like him I derive some "spirituality" from reading a story by Sholem Aleichem, Peretz, Simon Dubnow, Chaim too, that is Chaim Zhitowski, and I raise him an I.J. Singer, and his brother A.J., who, by the way, had he not died early would have been a better writer. During these reflections I fear greatly hearing a thunderous voice from the sky admonishing me, as he did Job, with a wrathful, "Where were you when I created the universe?"

Now, do not take me as a rank believer.  But it does seem there is something a little more spiritual in the contemplation of an unimaginable infinity, where a point of light takes five billion years to reach us, something indeed a little more spiritual than the musings of Tevye, and his fiddler, who teeters on the roof of a house, in a Shtetyl, in a country, in a world that is but a speck in the universe.

Forgive me the outburst.  In conscience I was suffused with a sudden desire for an onion roll, the long one, as I walked along Fairfax Avenue.  But, the bread counters were overcrowded with the faithful, impatiently clamoring  for enough bread and cookies to fortify against the coming seven days of privation and the inflexible Matzoth, and maybe the thought that there is among them many who go to synagogue for reasons other than those of Fred Narvey--he attending services at weddings and funerals out of respect for friends and not this demanding God.

But then, as Fred says, "God is a separate question. . .a philosophical term."  He is a concept, embodied only in truth, justice and compassion for our fellow man. He is not God, that is, an omnipotent being in space who sits in judgment of us mortals. "I do not believe," he says at base. 

He may be right. He is so assured, so confident. He goes to peace marches, even on the Shabbos. He is host of a literary group known as, "Mama Loshen". He cannot be tagged with some current, convenient name. He is, by his own admission, a "pedestrian". This is almost godlike omniscience and omnipotence to those of us less gifted.

I am more fearful that there IS a God, call Him a philosophical term if you like, that He exists outside, and that he might not have any interest in us at all, or our futile peregrinations, our endless peace marches over the millenia. Fred knows there is no God, or if He is, He is man made. What is his proof that God is not?

Easter Sunday is approaching.  Perhaps I will join my friends and family members at Easter Mass in the Cathedral.  It's only an hour, and a wonderful ceremonial rite. What could I lose? 

The Odds are. . .Against by Constantine Gochis

 This is another of Dad's stories related to his life back in the 1990s near and around Fairfax Avenue in Los Angeles. This one he did not title so I did it for him.

Think of the certainty of the solar systm.  We have just witnessed the last solar eclipse that will not happen again for centuries. I have concluded, after a spate of years, that I am not attuned to the meticulously ordered universe.

I cite the astronomical trivia because the orbital  exactitude is so predictable and so orderly and I am so out of sync with it.

I cite two examples.  One is the buses I continue to miss, a fact that does violence to the psyche.

You know, if one tosses a penny into the air one hundred times, it will come up heads about fifty percent of the time, I don't want to exaggerate, but if you were to place the odds on MY chances of catching the elusive bus at zero, you would be a winner.

Take today, Friday the 13th. There are three northbound and southbound lines on Fairfax Avenue any one of which can serve my purposes when I am about my errands. I watched as all three reached and departed the bus stop while I was a half a block away. In desperation I signaled a cab

He affected not to see me until I took out a pen and made scratches on an envelope I was carrying. "You look for a cab? I do not see you right away," he apologized.

I retaliated by paying him in Cityride coupons and did not include a tip. Cabbies will take dollars or rubles but they hate the coupons.

I was on my way to "Staples" to consult with their computer guru on the matter of some non-functioning hardware I had purchased. 

The expert was bored and impatient, a condition only possible in times of low unemployment.

Another customer tried to interpose his beef.  "When I am finished with this customer," said the imperious chief which dispatched the customer due to his tonal severity. Managers have rights.

The manager finished me off with equal celerity. "We don't stock the part, you have to call the company." 

All right. My luck seemed to be taking a turn for the better. I caught the home bound Wilshire Bus immediately. 

When I got to Fairfax Avenue, the 99 Cents shop, loomed invitingly. The odds looked promising if I got off, and went to the store. As I said, there are ample lines on Fairfax Avuenue.  "Take a shot," I said to myself.

There was only one guy in front of me on the check out line. Lady luck turned. The guy ran his credit card through the slide. It did not work. He tried several sides of the reluctant plastic without result. The clerk took the card and repeated his steps without better results. She demonstrated several innovative gyrations, wiping the offending card against her forearm, her sleeve, and once even on her protective apron. I watched through the window as two buses arrived and departed.

The clerk and the customer repaired to another counter and repeated the ritual. I dropped my items on the counter and left. Happily, the 217 was approaching.  But it did not stop. The legend above the windshield read, "Out of Service". 

After a long intermission, another loomed, approached slowly at first, and when the light turned green sped past us bulging with passengers from its last pick-up point.

A little old lady shook her cane at the offending vehicle with great vigor, and she spewed forth a thesaurus of invective, including four letter words, both instructive and satisfying to me.

I decided to walk.